Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Losing Michael

7/27/11 @ 1:15pm - Yesterday, a dear friend of mine was in the hospital, scheduled to have surgery to repair a broken bone. While he was getting ready for the surgery, he was being given some calming medicines. Then, unexpectedly, his heart stopped beating.

Thankfully, the doctors were able to resuscitate him. Right now, he is being kept unconscious while undergoing a treatment that is intended to protect his brain.

His mom is flying here to be with him. I am planning to be at the hospital tonight to offer support to his family & other friends. Your thoughts, prayers, well-wishes & positive energy are appreciated. Love, Mary

7/28/11 @ 5:30am - Awake, thinking about my dear friend, Michael. So thankful to have been able to be with him yesterday, to talk to him & hold his hand, to remind him that we need him, to meet his mom & to celebrate our love for him with some of the amazing people who are his friends. We are ready for him to wake up & join the party. Thank you for caring about him.

7/28/11 @ 12:58pm - About to head to the hospital where I plan to play/sing this song for Michael. "Won't you come out to play?" "Greet the brand new day." "The sun is up. The sky is blue. It's beautiful & so are you." "Won't you come out to play?" "Open up your eyes. See the sunny skies." "The wind is low. The birds'll sing that you are part of everything." "Won't you open up your eyes?"

7/29/11 @ 6:38am - Feeling quiet today. (Thanks for asking & caring.)

7/29/11 @ 1:44pm - I'm going to go offline for a few days. No cell phone or internet. I've loaded the camping gear in the car & am about to get out a map to see if I can find a park I've heard of, somewhere south of here, that has awesome caves. I'm going to take space & take time for myself to just be, to breathe, contemplate, reflect...

8/1/11 @ 7:07pm - Back home. Slowly rejoining the world. Hope each of you is well. Much love...

8/1/11 @ 8:16pm - "All that I know is I'm breathing. All I can do is keep breathing. All we can do is keep breathing..."

8/2/11 @ 10:18am - Still working on how to answer you guys who are wondering, "How is your friend, Michael?" I left the hospital on Friday, shortly after hearing that a neurologist said he no longer had brain activity. Needed (still need) space & time to sort it all out. Losing Michael is a horrible tragedy. The world needs more of him, not less.

8/2/11 @ 10:17am - Michael wasn't my lover but we shared intimate parts of ourselves with each other. I will miss him always & forever, every day. "Goodbye, My Friend. You have been the one. You have been the one for me." "And I still hold your hand in mine." "I'm so hollow..."

8/2/11 @ 5:41pm - Just got a chance to read this loving, touching story written about my friend, Michael. It gives you a glimpse of his beauty (& more info about his passing). I especially like the part where Colleen says, "In honor of Michael, may we continue to learn and grow, seek and explore, live and love at full throttle with no limitations, no fear, no holds barred – just as he did."

8/3/11 @ 4:43am - "Maybe the best way we can honor his memory is to amplify what I see in everyone Michael touched. We can hold on to something he stood for: kindness, good humor, joy, perseverance, or even rocking a red dress." "Even if the vessel that held Michael is no more, the concept of Michael can stay with us in how we treat others and how we ourselves continue to live."

8/3/11 - 5:15am -"Though difficult, I am mindful that this kind of grief can only be experienced by someone who has known a true and wonderful friendship." "Saddened by my loss? Yes." "Grateful for the experience? Yes!" ~ Toby Causby (Who is like a brother to Michael.)

8/15/11 - 11:53am - "It is a beautiful life. And I'm so happy. And I miss my friend. I miss you."

9/7/11 - 6:25am - "Michael the Child Advocate" by Mary Maddux

8/15/11 - 2:20pm -Join us in Celebrating the Life of Michael Scribner: Dear Friends and Family of Michael, For the last several years, Michael celebrated his birthday (and many other occasions) with a picnic in Dolores Park. We are continuing the tradition by celebrating his birthday (September 13th) and his life with a vegan potluck in his honor. Michael's mother Terri, his stepdad Dick, and his stepsisters are coming from Michigan to join us all.

Place: Dolores Park - San Francisco

Date: September 11, 2011

Time: 12 pm to 5 pm

8/15/11 - 3:32pm - "A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away."~ Arabian Proverb